OK. I'm married to a good man - there's no denying it. He's no angel, and can be a grade-A a**hole when he wants to be, but he holds his own and loves his wife. Apparently that's hard to come by these days, because I'm constantly inundated with commentary from friends and family about how "lucky" I am. Don't get me wrong. If there is such a thing as luck, it was certainly in play when we met one another and started a relationship. We have a lot in common, a lot of respect for one another, and a deep mutual attraction. HOWEVER, when you meet the couple who has maintained a successful relationship for 14 years based on "luck," you let me know so I can smack the s*** out of them for not sharing that secret with me! NOT TO MENTION, how f***ing rude it is to imply that I'M the lucky one. The boy is cute, but I've been making magic happen for 31 years! LOL!!!
Seriously - There's a huge misconception out there that, in love and life, getting what we deserve means getting what we want. I think that what we want is overrated. What if you deserve more? I'm not sure if any of us "deserve" anything, but if my relationship with my man MUST be evaluated, he was only part of what I wanted. I had a whole laundry list of what my "ideal" man should look, feel, think, smell, talk, and be like. He was only some of those things, and I entertained the idea of holding out for more. I thank God every day that I didn't. He wasn't all the things that I wanted, but what he was was so much more - so much more than I knew to imagine for myself. So, maybe luck did open the door, but we continue to live in the happy home because we work hard everyday to be good stewards of the gift that God has given us in each other.
Don't hold on so tightly to the dream of the love you want, that you can't let go and embrace the fantastic reality of what God has promised for your life!
Seriously - There's a huge misconception out there that, in love and life, getting what we deserve means getting what we want. I think that what we want is overrated. What if you deserve more? I'm not sure if any of us "deserve" anything, but if my relationship with my man MUST be evaluated, he was only part of what I wanted. I had a whole laundry list of what my "ideal" man should look, feel, think, smell, talk, and be like. He was only some of those things, and I entertained the idea of holding out for more. I thank God every day that I didn't. He wasn't all the things that I wanted, but what he was was so much more - so much more than I knew to imagine for myself. So, maybe luck did open the door, but we continue to live in the happy home because we work hard everyday to be good stewards of the gift that God has given us in each other.
Don't hold on so tightly to the dream of the love you want, that you can't let go and embrace the fantastic reality of what God has promised for your life!
3 comments:
well can i say that i am lucky enough to know you both? probably one of the best things borne out of a relationship gone awry!
peace sister! and please know that i am already subscribed, can't wait for more posts!
Kenya, are going to start preaching on your blog. It doesn't matter cause I love it and I love you guys. Keep up the good works of letting people know the real.
The best line that I ever stole from you, "I appreciate that", really applies on this one! You are really doing it to me today so uh...how much do I owe you?
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